What Kind Of A Parent Are You?

Parenting Styles

Autocratic Parent

·    Parent values authority and exercises this through strictness and control.

·    Order without freedom.  Child is not given choices and opportunities for exploring are limited.

·    Parent tends to criticize, to correct, and to lecture. Mistakes are not acceptable.

Effect of parenting style:  child follows out of fear; is afraid of making mistakes or afraid of standing up for himself/herself; may react with resentment or rebellion during later developmental stages.

Permissive Parent

·    Expressed either as indulgent/over-protective (parent does everything for their child, and will pity and rescue the child from the consequences of his/her behavior) or neglectful (parent gives no limits to child).

·    Freedom without order.  Child is given unlimited choices with little or no guidance.

·    Parent tends to be tolerant or lax, sometimes out of fear or guilt.

Effect of parenting style: child tends to grow up irresponsible, manipulative,  may lack initiative since he/she is so conditioned to have someone else take care of things or may be uncomfortable with limits.

Democratic Parent

·    Parent values dignity and respect, both for himself/herself and for the child.

·    Freedom with order.  Parent is not afraid to be firm and limit the child’s choices.

·    Parent tends to guide and listen to the child, and acknowledges the learning potential that comes from making mistakes.

Effect of parenting style: child grows up socially responsible and self reliant. Relationship between parent and child is strong.